Real Benefits Of Having True Friends Instead Of Time Wasters

Friends with common objectives

Often times we get things mixed up while still believing that we are on the right tracks doing things the way it should be done.
 Instead of making better use of our time by getting engaged with the right

kinds of friends; those who would give us enough push and motivations to get busy and strive in right directions, some of us have found it comforting to make do with some certain types of friends all in the name of 'Interchanges of encouragement'.

If it is to be asked of in the first place, what are you doing that deserve encouraging?

 You have to be busy at something to be encouraged, but instead of that, you are always seen together at various locations that you has no business in, discussing, analyzing, suggesting, gossiping, criticizing, and inputting nothing but wrong motives among those that has been freely managing their whatever together, and when asked of what you intend to do with your life by some concerned individuals, you are even bold enough to say that you are encouraging one another by doing what no one asked you for.They asked you because you are doing nothing as far as all eyes could see.
Suppose you are reasonably engaged as a group with a common interests such as religious interests, workmates with common goals, groups of like minds interested in a set out causes or whatsoever. Good, and that could have been better for all to see!

It's all about having the same focus

Because whenever such ones come together or are even seen in pairs, you know for sure that they are for a common goal which they believe in and not just some isolated groups of lazy individuals with no common objectives of anything that bind them together and who are moving aimlessly for no just cause; but who are busy covering their laziness with ideas of Interchanges of encouragements for being hopeless.

Run away from such fellows any time you see them if not you will have your self to blame. Instead of Interchanges of encouragements, what they are busy doing for themselves is Interchanges of discouragement.

In case you don't know or you are worried of where such ones could be found in order to protect yourself and your loved ones from them, do not worry because what I'm going to say next might surprise you.....

 They're everywhere! In your church, at your working place, in your offices, in your schools, you have them as your neighbors, you enters the same buses with them.....see, one of them may even be closer to you right now than you ever imagined.

It pays to have good a friend

They are so tricky and usually start as a friend and slowly eat deep into you before you knows what is happening. They are usually happy to see you without any serious commitments because they are pathological liars and inherently lazy.

They are always sympathetic types of friends and genuinely feel for you for losing your work, your mate, or anything whatsoever, but that's their ploys.

 They will simply prefer you to live a life of pity just like them instead of encouraging you to make up with your boss or mate and remain responsible in life.

No!, they won't do that but only come up with often times best forms of advice that appears to be out of this world when put into practice, but which you never see them do or show you the example of the usefulness of the said advice, they will only keep feeding on the lies of why they didn't do it and why you too should have a rethink if at all you feels like trying it out.

    You see, when we hear certain expressions like:

 'Life is what you make it',

'Show me your friend and I will tell you who you are',

 and 'You will reap what you sow'  e.t.c.,

Those words may appear to be minor and irrelevant because people use them often, but one secrete there is that, those expressions has power!

 If one is not very careful with what he or she allows into his life, it won't be long before such a person become a shadow of himself and starts to view anyone that tries to put him right as an enemy.

           It is good to have some friends but it would certainly be a better options to make them friends with some common interests/goals and not a vulgar types of associates that could leave one a useless fellow at most.

 You may be friends, but what type of friends are you?
 What impact are you having on each other, and how much have you influenced yourselves to become better at whatever you were before knowing
yourselves?

Think towards that angles, for those are the yardsticks to measure real and lasting friends with.

   If you are said to be  friends and each time you spent together are always dedicated to talking on what does not have any real meaning or is just based on how a certain man and his wife are squandering their fortunes or how this life has been so unfortunate to both of you are and how helpless you ve' become in life with none of you taking some positive views of life and how to upgrade your situations for better and so on,...... I bet you, your friendship is such a wrong type and a dangerous one at that!.

Some were happy looking at this.....

 Get it clearly right; that heart to heart talks between friends should not be always gossiping, bemoaning, condemning others and things like that, but should be more of how to make things better for each other and how to overcome various challenges in life be it in your family, at work, and in any other areas of interests.

 Yes! when faced towards such directions, it then becomes real interchanges of encouragements and not being busy discouraging one another for nothing worthwhile.

                             Last                                       lines:

             Get and keep friends that are real friends, those that could change you for the better, be it financially, educationally, spiritually, morally, emotionally, and make you to be and retain your true self without unnecessarily harming you in any way.

 Enjoy to the full what it really mean to have real and sympathetic friends and not lazy fellows that are found allover the places.

  We also need to have it at the back of our minds that real friendships are always a two ways sided or directions,- even if you have money and the other one is still struggling, you can still make it because no single person ever have it all in life.

You have to complement each other accordingly. Let your friendship be one to be proud of. That's true friends at best and that's the type you would find in me but with one condition:

                 If you are that best friend that you want me to be for and to you!